Röra Blue’s “The Unsent Project” displays hurtful and unsaid remarks from ex-lovers. These brief texts reveal unstated emotions, happy memories, and delicate nostalgia.
On her website, Röra Blue outlines the project’s guidelines: “Say your first love’s name and type what you would say in a text message to them. Include the hue that brings to mind your first love as well.
On Instagram, the blogger and artist got over 25,000 requests! Blue then organized the chosen submissions into a lively college. The Unsent Project is “a conceptual and hypothetical release for the devastated soul” that brings to light people’s longing for former loves.
Many of us have erased such vulnerable texts to partners out of fear of rejection or dread of baring our feelings. I can still clearly recall my heartbreaking unsent texts, and I’m so grateful they were never sent. Fortunately, I have friends who always have my back and warn me not to send these upsetting texts because doing so will only lead to more misery and grief.
Do you reflect on your first encounter with someone and then contrast that with where you are today? I frequently think, “Wow. I had no idea this would occur.
Perhaps you both realized you weren’t good for one another, but you clung to the idea that things would improve. It can be quite challenging to let go of the concept that a relationship has a clear endpoint and live in the present.
Some relationships can give you a special look back that few other things can. Although you will lose that connection, you will not lose that individual. For better or worse, you will always have the memories you shared.
One of the most important truths I have learnt is that even though a relationship may end, the world does not end. I discovered that I should not put my value on other people or depend on them to make me happy. These may sound like no-brainers, but there are times when we are so preoccupied with relationships that we lose sight of who we are and what we are aiming for. “Look forward to something that is not a person,” I always remind myself. Develop yourself.
I learned how to rely on myself and, in the process, learned a lot about myself. I challenged myself to achieve new goals and had a new perspective on life. I now realize that being in a relationship does not entail losing sight of oneself.